Thank you for having me

Thank you for having me ladies and gentlemen… Permit me to share with you basic principles of Securing A Friendly and Protective Environment for our precious children either as Primary or Secondary Caregivers
So securing A Friendly and Protective Environment for our precious children begin with our commitment to do so recognising that the number one responsibility of a school is not to teach but to protect… Because our precious children do not feel protected learning cannot take place…

The commitment to secure a protective environment for our precious children does not answer to wishful thinking… It answers to meticulous planning…

Permit me to say that Securing A Safe and Protective Environment for our precious children begins with a system which must have at least 5 components

So how do we know that a system is effective either at home or in school? Simple we turn to the child… An environment is not safe and protective for the child until child feels safe… A child does not present himself/herself for learning or any activity for that matter until he/she feels safe and protected… Feels at home
Questions
5 components which are :

Permit to share with you the fundamentals of the these five components of a system before sharing with you same: Prologue
Think the CHILD…Think TODAY…Think the FUTURE™…According to Fredrick Douglass ‘It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.’ Therefore, it is Taiwo Akinlami’s fundamental approach to Child Protection that Enlightenment is Superior to Enforcement™

Responses
Enlightenment is superior to Enforcement. Hmmm i like that.
I guess by both the school and the parents?
I feel u

Systems Approach to Securing A Friendly and Protective Environment for our precious refer to coordinated and professionally established prevention and response measures for the protection of the precious children under our care from all forms of abuse like physical, sexual, emotional, neglect and any other act or omission that are not in the best interest of the precious children under our care

The five components of a system are 1. Intelligence 2. Goal or set of goals for protection 3. The Dominant culture o the caregivers 4. Processes 5. Accountability.
intelligence here refers to 1. The knowledge of yourself as a caregiver 2. The knowledge of the child and the knowledge of the abuser… The knowledge of yourself begins with visiting or revisiting your childhood… We are all products of our childhood influences… We treat children the way we see them… We see them the way we were seeing growing up… The truth is that we cannot give what we do not have… So the first intelligence is to study ourselves…

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Evening and well done sir!
That’s very true

intelligence here refers to 1. The knowledge of yourself as a caregiver 2. The knowledge of the child and the knowledge of the abuser… The knowledge of yourself begins with visiting or revisiting your childhood… We are all products of our childhood influences… We treat children the way we see them… We see them the way we were seeing growing up… The truth is that we cannot give what we do not have… So the first intelligence is to study ourselves…
Knowledge of the abuser refers to knowing that there are 3 kinds of abusers: 1. Impulsive or reflexive abuser 2. A deliberate abuser and 3. The person who condones abuse by his/silence
The intelligence of who the child is begins with understanding who the child is and permit us to introduce you to the child: Shall We Meet the Child?
CHILDREN
Anyone below the age of 18 years, according to the Child’s Rights Act, 2003
C-Care ⎸H-heritage ⎸I-Individuality ⎸ L-Leadership ⎸ D-Delightful ⎸ R-Respect ⎸ E-Engage ⎸ N-Now:
Intelligence in the order elaborated above helps us to lay a foundation for the protection of our precious children
The next component is to create processes which address prevention and response mechanism for abuses
The last but not the least is accountability… Who is responsible for what? Who is your Child Protection Officer?

Any question so far?

Yes,am not too clear on the” people/culture component” sir can you expplain better

Question from platform 4
Knowledge of the abuser. 3, in my understanding could be the caregiver or parent?

Questions from platform 6
Culture here refers to the dominant belief system of a people… It is the determinant of their actions or omission… It determines how we see things in their totality…We learn our culture through our socialization from childhood

With my little experience as a parent, I ve come to see that school runs and attendance at occasions are almost totally abandoned by father’s.

Question from platform 6
I have to preach and explain the psychological effects to have my husband attend school events. And most times it will be done absent mindedly.
From platform 6
Please Sir, what programme is in ground to educate the family unit on accountability to the child?

From platform 6
Please note that the safety of our precious children is a matter of law… The Child Rights Act 2003, The Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, Child Rights Law of Lagos State and they make provisions for what we call 4 baskets of rights: Survival Rights, Development Rights, Protection Rights and Participation Rights…The law makes it clear that in whatever we do it must be in the best interest of the child at all levels
Permit me to submit however that law is not enough… We need enlightenment which will achieve the right knowledge (what to do), skill(how to do it) and attitude which is the fortitude to do that which you know you should do

.My final words to you will be that securing a Friendly and Protective Environment for our precious Children will require us to pay actual attention as primary and secondary caregivers… We may also need to invest in knowledge and skill in this areas and work with experts as organisations… The bottom line is the only major threat to our institution of learning today is abuse because once a child is abused he/she is distracted from learning… I can tell you categorically because my childhood was very rough and full of abuse… I was physically abused, lost my virginity at the age 6 by a female neighbour my mother left me with… As a child, I had already started having sexual relationship with other children, as a teenager I had started having anal sex, in today’s parlance you call it homosexuality, as a teenager, i have sexually molested our neighbour’s daughter… I suffered emotional abuse also and my parents were not available… I became a dysfunctional adult… I was not suffering from low self esteem… I suffered from no self, no esteem… I found help 20 years ago when I gave my life to Christ and that was the beginning of a turning point in my life and knowing the impact of wrong upbringing, i have dedicated my life to ensuring that our precious children are protected working with parents and all who work with children… I know that the impact of wrong upbringing is eternal except by divine intervention….

Epilogue
‘In giving us children, God places us in a position of both LEADERSHIP and SERVICE. He calls us to GIVE UP our lives for someone else’s sake – to abandon our own desires and put our child’s interests first. Yet, according to His perfect design, it is through this SELFLESSNESS that we can become truly fulfilled.’
Charles Stanley
Senior pastor of First Baptist Church, a mega church in northern Atlanta, Georgia; he is the founder and president of In Touch Ministries

 

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We bless God for your life sir. Thank you

 

 

Thank you very much for your time sirTaiwo AKINLAMI is a Social Development and Public Interest Lawyer and Childhood Management and Child Development Subject Matter Expert of over 20 years.
He develops relevant products and cutting-edge services, aimed at promoting THE BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS AFRICA CHILD, anchored on The iProtect™ Approach (TiA), an ideology, which is a product of extensive research.
TiA is aimed at addressing the impact of our dominant value system and human factor on Child Rights and Responsibilities, CARE and Protection and Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening
He has over the years worked with individuals, families and leading local and international institutions like APEN, ACSI, NAPPS, UNICEF, the British Council, Google, Facebook, SOS Children Villages, just to mention a few.
He is a passionate and consummate Social Empowerment Advocate™(SEA), which project and the approach thereof was showcased at the Europe, Middle East and Africa Child Safety Summit, hosted by Google and Facebook, where he made a presentation on same.
He is the Principal, Taiwo AKINLAMI Academy, a Legal Enlightenment & Social Development™ and he is happily married to his adorable, amiable and supportive wife of over a decade, Oluwafunmilayo and the family resides in Lagos.