Thanks for the privilege to share with us all. I do not take it for granted. I am grateful.
And I know that Emotional Intelligence is a known topic to most of us if not all…
Message from AUNTY Wemi

So then , The first step in the Emotional Intelligence which involves the classroom is :
1. Becoming daily Aware of your emotions and Naming them!

Since we are talking classroom; you will not always be on top of your best feelings everyday!
This has got nothing to do with the students, your classroom nor the school management.
Much of the times, you housed the emotion and the situation “fine tune” it on your behalf

So, As educators, Identify what emotion you woke up with, and your are bringing to the school gate and classroom

Research says that Naming (identifying) our emotions allows us to “Slow down”…
Remember, what you don’t know knows you and is in charge of you!
Psychology believes we all carry 8 basic emotions ….
Fear, Anger, Joy, Sadness, Acceptance, Disgust, Anticipation, Surprise…

Now, before the close of day, you will experience at least 4 out of the basic emotions…

This is the reason you must IDENTIFY & NAME what you feel per time

The teacher’s level of EQ is by far the single most important variable in creating a classroom where EI can be developed healthily. And the single most important variable in the teacher’s EQ is how they handle their own emotions, especially their negative emotions. An effective, successful teacher is largely one who can handle his or her negative feelings in an authentic, real and healthy way. Creating a Positive Learning Environment
Message from AUNTY Wemi

So, let me go this way,
👉🏽What is Emotion ?
👉🏽What is Intelligence?

I am not defining it the usual ways. Because knowledge is on the move!

I say;
EMOTION is the language your MIND speaks to your “feelings” which controls your ” responses” and eventually becomes your experience

We need to be reminded that as educators ; you own your emotions but if you are not aware of it; IT WILL OWN YOU!

Now, INTELLIGENCE is just about being “aware” and the ability to apply the knowledge of that awareness.

You must know that What you are not aware of is actually “aware of you”!

And that’s your EMOTION!!!
Now, There is a link between Emotional and Cognitive processing in the prefrontal cortex part of the brain.

The Emotional processing is faster
while the Cognitive Processing is a bit slow

But with identification of your emotions; you can a make the two work in your best interest to achieve a good result from your reactions/responses

There is a part of the human brain called Amygdala. Which we all carry.
This is usually responsible for our feelings, reactions and responses.
It is very tiny but powerful
However, controllable!

Each day, we carry both the Low and High emotion and the classroom is usually the culprit😊
Today, we shall take a look at CLASSROOM EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Let me quickly mention what a positive learning environment looks like:

# Safe– Free from fear of physical, psychological or emotional pain and abuse. Free from threats, force, punishment, coercion, manipulation, pressure, stress, intimidation, humiliation, embarrassment, invalidation.

# Free — Students have real choices. Participation in activities and lessons is voluntary.

# Respectful — Students and teachers respect each other’s feelings, emotional needs, beliefs, values and uniqueness.

# Individual/Supportive/Nurturing — Students are treated individually. Their individual needs, talents, potential and interests are supported.

# Emotionally Intelligent — Feelings are valued, discussed, validated. EI is part of the formal and informal curriculum.
Someone may ask “Classroom? ”
“Emotions”
….
: We all are emotional beings.
We do everything from the realm of our souls – EMOTION

Your emotions reflects and shows up in everything you do! Especially the classroom as educators

There is a saying that EMOTIONS AFFECTS HOW & WHAT CHILDREN LEARN

Dealing with the classroom means dealing with the STUDENTS and being deliberate about creating an atmosphere for them beyond the board.
You could have all the certifications but if you do not have the Classroom Emotional Intelligence; you are……
: Let me summarise it for you:
As an educator;
👉🏽 KNOW YOURSELF
👉🏽CHOOSE YOURSELF
👉🏽GIVE YOURSELF
1. OBSERVE YOUR CLASSROOM EVERY MORNING.

Take a few moments each day and observe your classroom environment.
👉🏽which child appears relaxed
👉🏽Which child is shy and retiring

Get to know the pattern of behavior between your pupils ,take notes and how they relate with each other and WITH YOU as the class parent. 😊
So, here are my practical suggestions for the classroom teachers regarding Emotional Intelligence….
How do you bring it to the classroom?
: 3. Encourage Classroom Connection :
Break some classroom “rules”
Rearrange the sitting position of your pupils
Be involved in their midst
Be like them once a while….
It fosters classroom connection and makes your work easier as the classroom educator
:Remember, you cannot give what you don’t have.

HOW TO MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS :
We already mentioned
# Identify Your Feelings – Ask yourself: How am I feeling? – Answer using three word sentences beginning with “I feel…” – Label your feelings, not your children (or situation)

# B. Take Responsibility for Them (Own them) – Don’t blame the children for your feelings – Owning your feelings means not thinking in terms of: You are making me angry You kids are driving me crazy – Remember that there is a little space between stimulus and response, and in this space lies your power to choose your reaction. Don’t give away this power. ** If your kids are in charge of your emotions, you are in trouble!

# C. Use Your Emotional Awareness to Learn About Yourself – Your negative feelings reveal your unmet emotional needs. For example: If you feel You need to feel Disrespected Respected Disobeyed Obeyed Out of control In control But remember that the children are not there to meet your needs, you are there to meet theirs. Thus, you must either get your needs met somewhere else, or you must “let go” of some of your needs, such as your need to have so much control, or to feel obeyed. And remember that respect is something you earn, not demand. The easiest way to do this is to show respect for each individual childs feelings, and remember his negative feelings are indications of unment emotional needs. The more help the child identify and meet the needs, the happier everyone will be.
HOW TO MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS :
We already mentioned
# Identify Your Feelings – Ask yourself: How am I feeling? – Answer using three word sentences beginning with “I feel…” – Label your feelings, not your children (or situation)

# B. Take Responsibility for Them (Own them) – Don’t blame the children for your feelings – Owning your feelings means not thinking in terms of: You are making me angry You kids are driving me crazy – Remember that there is a little space between stimulus and response, and in this space lies your power to choose your reaction. Don’t give away this power. ** If your kids are in charge of your emotions, you are in trouble!

# C. Use Your Emotional Awareness to Learn About Yourself – Your negative feelings reveal your unmet emotional needs. For example: If you feel You need to feel Disrespected Respected Disobeyed Obeyed Out of control In control But remember that the children are not there to meet your needs, you are there to meet theirs. Thus, you must either get your needs met somewhere else, or you must “let go” of some of your needs, such as your need to have so much control, or to feel obeyed. And remember that respect is something you earn, not demand. The easiest way to do this is to show respect for each individual childs feelings, and remember his negative feelings are indications of unment emotional needs. The more help the child identify and meet the needs, the happier everyone will be.
We can’t talk about the above without having an understanding of your personality /temperament.
KNOW YOURSELF!
2. Psychology says, the human brain learns best through the context of stories.
For children, Stories Stimulate multisensory integration.
👉🏽Beyond your lesson plan, create a story line around what you have to teach.
It must be interesting and has the content to help a child in your class to “think” and “ask” you a question😊
You don’t have to be perfect but you sure can Know
Choose
Give
NOTE , It takes a teacher /educator who is emotionally aware of his/her own emotions to become aware of others !!!!
4. Model the importance of a positive emotion in class

Get everyone in your class involved when one of your pupil is sick
When one of your pupil is celebrating
When you as the classroom teacher/parent is happy or even unhappy😊

👉🏽 you are helping to emphasize emotional meaning and developing a strong bond as far as your classroom is concerned
Message from AUNTY Wemi

Remember, your classroom is your constituency
Your classroom is your territory
Create the emotion you want to see and you will be glad you did

I will like to pause here for any question, contributions and additions….

But the summery is :
Know YOURSELF
Choose YOURSELF
Give YOURSELF

Then you will see your preferred atmosphere!

Thanks you everyone

 

Classroom emotionally development lecture by mrs Wemimo Adebiyi